Tuesday, June 23, 2009

The Divide, The Divides.

I enjoy listening to beautiful melodies in the dark. Brings me closer to the music, in tune with the artist emotions, lyrics are relatable in any way you interpret the story. It feels nice. Tia wats up mama? I’ve been tryin` to be nice but this bitch is a bitch. I won’t even bother. That girl seriously has a stick up her ass. No unity, no love, no respect one of the burdens of our community. I’m always amazed by the complements, the good vibes I receive from an equal. My equals are humans of course. In this sense I mean black and female.

A librarian once told me it’s not those sistas that you should be watchin` out for but those French whores, the Québécoises. The woman behind that desk was talking about white girls. It was funny to me, not in a haha way but in a weird way. In her case it’s true that a hint of black blood makes you fully black. Valerie is biracial. Her father is a dark skinned Brazilian and her mother is French Canadian. Therefore, her mother stole our man. Are they really our men? I don’t own black men nor do I want to. As a matter of fact I don’t own no man, no human. What is up with some women thinking that they own a man because they are part of a certain ethnic group? It is sickening to my stomach which what were these words coming out of Valerie’s mouth. I like to think its Binationality but unfortunately the correct term is biracial, why put the race in it? There is only the human and animal race and since I can breathe like the red, black, yellow, brown, white man and donate blood to whomever needs it well then we are all the same, right? Indeed we are. Why is there such a divide?
I guess it’s because whether we like it or not we live in different worlds. Depending on our backgrounds and skin color, we go through very different obstacles. The world, life caters to some of us and for others it’s just a bitch, just strugglin`. Just like beautiful people get more attention than ugly people. Whites get more opportunities than everybody else. Now in a way I can understand ``race`` because of regardless of how I look, my world, the life of a black woman is completely different from the life of a Caucasian, Asian, Hispanic woman. Then again what about my light skin women? Those sistas, my sistas. Im of a beautiful, dark, chocalate, smooth, soft, sexy complexion. Am I treated differently than my light skin, caramel friend Sara? Perhaps and it’s a fact and I accept it but don’t appreciate that mindset. Lighter is better just like beautiful is better and thinner is better. There is a divide there. I’ve only noticed this divide last year after having a heated discussion with Mama and Nana about the light skin, dark skin topic. I know that Nana felt like Mama and I were gangin` up on her and for that I am sorry but sista` Nana I still stand by my point.
My fellow sister and Sri Lankan beauty Anu battles with the light skin mentality. In fact she uses a lightening cream; it disappoints me to think that my friend believes to be beautiful you must be light. I’m dark skinned and I think I am beautiful …..at times….. at least more than I think I’m ugly. I appreciate what the world has to offer and its different beauties, the diversity, men, women and between. The complexions are so pretty, why would you want to look the same.
I’ve always been comfortable with my skin color. I never had a moment where I wanted to be none other than dark chocolate. It is understandable that societal norms and the western idea of beauty can pressure people to go to extreme lengths to be closer to that idea. Take me for example, I exercise and sometimes eat less than I am suppose to, to maintain and have that suitable body type, the one that is accepted and gets by in life. Everyone has their insecurities.
Félix Dupri


  1. Hey Felix,
    I remember that convo, it's the truth, no hate involved. Light skin is the standard of beauty across the globe. I can't complain about it, because nothing is going to change about the situation in the near future. I dig your post; all we can do about the situation is be inspired by it,and write fiction, personal accounts to promote a healthy discussion about the subject,and teach our kids differently.

  2. Hey girl, Ditto, I remember the conversation as well. Being both biracial and light skin, I gloss over the race issue, throughout most of my days. it wasn't always so, when I was younger, race was an obsession. Today, I just don't care for it. I can be with a white man just as easily as I can date a black man, all depends on personality and chemistry. When I hang out with friends, wether they are indian, white, black, arabic, I feel like I'm in my element. I don't need race to unite me, friendship is my currency. I'm not perfect, I do have my moments of 'racism' , but all in all, i'm good in my skin.